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“We can never judge the lives of others because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path but it’s another to think that yours is the only path.”
~Paulo Coelho
In today's world, "holding space" has become a phrase that carries a deep sense of purpose. It’s about being fully present, embracing others' journeys without judgment, and allowing them—and ourselves—the freedom to be as they are. But what does it really mean to hold space?
Holding space isn't just about being silent or passive; it's about cultivating a balance between action and presence. When we hold space, we're both sitting on the mountaintop and walking through the trenches. We're deeply connected to the world's realities, yet maintain a perspective that keeps us grounded.
Here are some core elements of holding space:
1. Non-Judgment: Holding space requires letting go of judgment. This isn't just about refraining from judging others; it’s also about not judging ourselves. It means resisting the urge to "fix" people or situations, allowing them to unfold in their own way.
2. Openness to Change: Life is in constant motion, and holding space means accepting that. We don't get swept up in the drama of the moment because we understand that moments are transient. Instead, we focus on the present, knowing that change is the only constant.
3. Softening the Heart: True holding space softens our hearts, enabling us to act with compassion. It's this compassion that allows us to walk alongside others on their journeys without imposing our own agendas.
4. Seeing the Bigger Picture: Amidst the noise and chaos of life, holding space involves keeping an eye on the broader perspective. It's easy to fall into despair when faced with adversity, but when we hold space, we can maintain a sense of hope and direction.
Holding space isn't just about being silent or passive; it's about cultivating a balance between action and presence. When we hold space, we're both sitting on the mountaintop and walking through the trenches. We're deeply connected to the world's realities, yet maintain a perspective that keeps us grounded.
Holding space is not about passivity; it's about being actively engaged while remaining open and accepting. It asks us to walk with others without trying to control their paths, and to do the same for ourselves.
It's worth considering: Are you willing to be present for someone without attempting to direct their course or solve their problems? Are you able to give yourself the same grace?
If you're willing to practice holding space, you might discover the profound ripple effect it has on those around you. It creates a space where people feel seen and valued, and where love and compassion can flourish.
So, take a moment to try holding space. Notice how it feels to release judgment, embrace change, and soften your heart. The journey might be challenging at times, but the rewards can be transformative—not just for you, but for everyone whose life you touch.
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